One of the most harmful things that spouses can do to themselves at the end of their marriage is to fall into the trap of believing misconceptions about what their single life might look like. In reality, no one knows what the future holds, which underscores how futile it is to obsessively worry about one’s post-divorce life. A far better investment of that time would be to turn one’s attention to the legal aspects of his or her North Carolina divorce.
One of the biggest fears that people have when approaching a divorce is the concept that being single will be a terrible experience. They may fear being alone, or they may hate the thought of having to make new social connections and forge their way in the world as a single person rather than as part of a couple. These fears are rarely based in fact, and they only serve to make spouses anxious and unsettled about their future. For many people, being single turns out to be far more fulfilling than they may have suspected.
Another concern that many divorcing spouses share is that their kids will suffer from the change in their family’s structure. This ignores the fact that kids are resilient, and most will continue to thrive even after their living arrangements shift. Parents who are worried about the impact that their kids might have to the divorce should focus their efforts on crafting a child custody agreement that places the children at the center. They should also make every effort to support each child’s relationship with the other parent, no matter what their personal feelings may be.
At the end of the day, no one can predict the future, and no one knows what their life will be like after a divorce. Focusing on the negative possibilities does little but make the process stressful for North Carolinaspouses. That energy would be better directed by focusing on the legal aspects of a divorce in order to attain the best possible settlement.
If you or a loved one is going through a Greensboro divorce or child custody battle, contact Meghan O’Keeffe at Garrett, Walker, Aycoth, & Olson (336) 379-0539